7 Ways to be and show love during recovery !
This time of year, the red heart shaped balloons, stuffed animals and greeting cards take over many stores and supermarkets reminding us all to share the love. Though there’s nothing wrong with showing some affection to those around us, remembering to show love to ourselves is also an important part of life, and recovery. We’ve compiled some advice from our BBC counselors and coaches, as well as some life and recovery mentors in the country to create this list of 7 ways to be and show love during recovery. We hope you find it helpful.
- BREAK YOUR DAY INTO MOMENTS. Most addicts would agree that “a day at a time” simply doesn’t cut it. That’s WAY too long. Especially first thing in the morning. I have to make until bedtime and still keep myself together? Tara Mohr, a certified life coach and personal fitness instructor, recommends deep breaths and allowing each moment to just be, it will soon pass. So when rear-ended in the depression tunnel or facing challenges finding light, breathe and be in the moment.
- LOOK FOR SIGNS OF HOPE: The little, unexpected signs of hope can keep you alive and well during recovery, and often these little signs that motivate my life-engine during a fragile time.. Yesterday you saw a rose bloom on our rose bush out front. Today you’ll see birds feeding from a tree. Tomorrow you will notice the sun and how warm it feels on your neck. Signs from the universe celebrating that “YOU ARE STILL HERE”. HOPE is one of the strongest pillars of the rebuilding stage of recovery and according to New Life Intervention Strategies and is the most valued feeling throughout each step of recovery.
- SELF DETERMINATION: When you are struggling with the realities of addiction and the new worlds and insecurities you face without the use of INSERT HERE, much power is given to self determination. To feel and think this is in the mind is a difficult process, but one YOU are capable of accomplishing.“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”- Maya Angelou, writer and recovered addict.
- BE SUPPORTIVE: Be supportive by nature and let it come with appreciation for others going through this with you. It is a very good habit to maintain, the support for each other can help you move mountains. Supportive habits can reduce stress and anxiety which are the enemies of us all. Give a hug, a call, a text or a reminder to someone else that they are not alone. Support is a Value and Goal of the SMART Recovery self-management and interwoven in all that we do.
- SELF-CARE: When people think positively, they are more likely to take better care of themselves. Positive thinking contributes to sticking with exercise routines, healthier eating habits and healthier daily activities; in other words, mindset helps us accomplish goals and take care of our health and eating habits. Healthy and enjoyable activities such as exercising, singing, and dancing can energize your body, lift your emotions, and enliven your spirit. So get up and get active. Have fun, keep your head high, experience your vitality, and feel good!“Affirmations are our mental vitamins, providing the supplementary positive thoughts we need to balance the barrage of negative events and thoughts we experience daily.”-Tia Walker, author of The Inspired Caregiver and social justice activist.
- LET YOURSELF GRIEVE: When we feel pain from a loss, allowing ourselves time to grieve is one of the most important steps in the healing process. Grieving for the person that was and the process of the person of you are becoming does not always feel balanced. Find healthy outlets where you can safely express your emotions. Have a good cry (or a few), talk with supportive friends, write in a journal, see a counselor, or pray to your maker.Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are part of the 5 Stages of Addiction related Grief, according to influential author and therapist, Regina Walker Acknowledge the pain and hurt. When you let yourself grieve, you give to yourself the gift of tenderness. In time, the sadness diminishes, and the tears fall less. Your healing has already begun.
- ALLOW YOURSELF PEACEFUL SOLITUDE:The next step in your healing process is to allow yourself peaceful solitude, and be comfortable in your own company. Engage in enjoyable, solitary activities that let you to feel peace and vitality on your own. Walking, cooking, gardening, art making and traveling are just a few examples. Get to know the newest version of you “Go back and take care of yourself. Your body needs you, your feelings need you, your perceptions need you. Your suffering needs you to acknowledge it. Go home and be there for all these things.” Thich Nhat Hahn.
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